A Story About Pain

January 12, 2009

When I was nineteen, I had a legitimate shot at being an athlete. Instead of playing football (like I should have) I wound up going into the ring. In my fourth fight, I knocked my opponent down and was heading back to my corner. Before I could get there, he had gotten up, gone airborne, and thrust the blade of his foot into the rear of my left knee, shattering it instantly.

This was the worst pain I’ve ever experienced, and I think most of San Francisco heard me scream. I screamed so loud that I couldn’t even hear the ref counting me out.

Through the pain, I was mad as hell. There was no way this guy was gonna take a cheap shot and claim the purse. I should probably say these fights weren’t exactly sanctioned…

My trainer (a very good friend I maintain sporadic contact with today) is ready to call the fight, I have other ideas. He bandages my leg, which is unable to support any weight, and although I’m still willing to continue, I’m all but unable to come out of the corner.

So the cheap-shot-taking mofo blitzes me and keeps me on the ropes, first doing everything he can to tag my leg, and then resorting to whatever it takes. I’m able to knock him away, and as he falls back, I leap from the ropes, flip backwards towards him, and bring the instep of my right foot crashing down onto his shoulder. He’s out cold, but I go down too. I’m able to get back up.

I spent about three years completely rehabilitating myself, but the injury torpedoed any pro career I might’ve wanted.
So fast forward about half a decade. By chance, I wind up in Newark, New Jersey. When I say by chance, I really mean I fell asleep on the bus and missed my stop. If you haven’t been to Newark, rent a Charles Bronson film and save yourself the trip.

I wind up falling in (as usual) with the crowd that knows where everything is, and a fight is set up with this nineteen-year-old kid who has never lost.

The kid is a Bruce Lee-wannabe; lightning fast; all speed, and the battle cry was perfect, but not a lick of power. And cocky; damn, the kid could run off at the mouth. He made me look humble and I wanted to hit him just to shut him up.

He could take a beating, too. It didn’t matter how hard I hit him, he just kept getting up. I eventually became bored and hit him so hard that I nearly lost my balance. He may have tagged me a million times but his lack of power means he’s more annoying than anything else.

I start hitting this kid with everything I have in sequences and he just keeps getting up. The act is getting old.

I just want the money. To hell with everything else.

I knock him away with a side kick, knowing that he was going to get up. As he recovers, I leap into the air and thrust the blade of my right foot on the outside of his knee as he begins to get up. I felt the bone break beneath the impact.

He screamed. He cried. He pounded the ground. He cried for his mother. He clutched his knee. He would’ve torn it off to make the pain stop. I know this.

I watch this, and I can’t help but remember when someone inflicted a similar injury on me. I remember being told that I would never walk straight again and how long it took to prove them wrong. I keep telling myself that it wasn’t a cheap shot. I wonder why that isn’t making me feel any better.

Everyone was quiet, and looking to me as though I was some kind of monster. I was.

I told the kid I wasn’t going to hurt him. I don’t know if he heard me, but I know what the look in his eyes meant when he turned to me.

I picked him up—he didn’t weigh much—and I asked for directions to the nearest hospital. It was too far to walk, so I hailed a cab. Back then, they didn’t ask questions.

Once he was in proper care, I left.
I always expected that kid to come back for me someday. So far, he hasn’t.


Vs. Busterwolf

January 12, 2009

There’s this new dream I’ve been having lately…
There is a torrential rainstorm in a barren land. The rain is coming down with such force that I can’t see but three feet from me.

Thunder and lightning strike with enough force to make me think the ground is coming apart.

I’m dressed; black button-up short-sleeved shirt, black jeans. No hat, no gloves, no do-rag. This is me, Avery K. Tingle.

This storm seems to call the end of the world forth, but I’m not affected. I keep walking, unsure of where I’m going, until I see a dark figure ahead, moving towards me.

It’s me. Well, sort of. It’s…who I used to be.
Blue jeans, black sleeveless T-shirt (which I still own), the trademark blue jean jacket with the black star on the back, and the hat I gave to Drea almost four years ago now.
The gloves are there too. I remember there was a time I did not nothing without them. The gloves are running with fresh blood.

For some reason, I’m not surprised.

Today (real life now) I’m at the desktop, trying to get my two computers to like one another. While going through the desktop I’m surprised to find two sets of users, both with very different settings. In one folder, there’s Avery…in the other, Busterwolf.

Chilling to the bone is that I do not remember setting this up.
Also chilling are my friends telling me that my eyes are different in almost every single picture I take. I know why.

Busterwolf is not a monster, although he can be. He is a shell I created to protect my weaker self. I find myself no longer needing this shell, which refuses to go quietly into that good night.

So it’s time for us to face. In my heart, right now, I know I can’t beat him. I know just how strong he is; I made him.

This past week, I began exploring a photography hobby, tried red wine for the first time in life, I got to meet up with some of the smartest literary minds in the city, I landed quick work setting up someone’s computer, ranked in on a writing contest, and I even forgave a friend.

Even the martial arts have taken on a different perspective for me; my chi is much more aligned, time seems to slow down when I go through a form, punches and kicks find their mark with much more fluidity. It’s like I’m more fluent than I’ve ever been.

For all the fear I’ve overcome, there is still one more hurdle I have to face, and this is where Busterwolf awaits. I have yet to confront my own rage.

An interesting tidbit is I’ve always gotten a much bigger rush from fighting than from sex. With sex, I care very much what my partner likes and in fighting…I don’t care about anything but being better. I think less and go almost entirely on emotion. Going deeper into my emotions eventually leads me to rage, at which point I no longer care if my opponent lives or dies.

With sex, there’s always that point I will never go beyond, no matter how much I get into it. I don’t think I’d ever kill the person I was sleeping with, but I don’t know what would happen if I gave that deeply into my emotions, either. I think it’s because I’ve held back so much is the reason I’ve never gotten a rush out of the experience.

I take extreme measures to keep my temper in check. Very few people have ever seen me angry, and the few who have don’t talk to me anymore. It’s not something I’m proud of.

I look at everything I’ve screwed up in my life—my kids, people that loved me—and I have come to realize that what I have now—my writing, getting my children back, Molly—is my second chance. I am letting the past go, but I still have no idea how to healthily deal with rage.

I know that I won’t overcome—or make peace with—Busterwolf through some fight in a dream, that would be too easy.

No, overcoming Busterwolf will involve me earning the right to raise my children, finding literary success (my goal is to do it full time, for a living, but if I have to choose, I would rather be respected), and finally, at long last, get on one knee to the girl I’m supposed to spend my life, ask that very fateful question, and she says “yes”.

Yeah….I can freely admit I want a home and a family. And I would like at least one more child with the one.

When I start to find those, that’s when Busterwolf will walk away, taking the storm with him.

But right now, he’s waiting for me.

(It’s not about me, it’s about my sons)

Alright, Wolf…let’s you and me go….


My First Synths

January 12, 2009

This idea was inspired by Melissa Maples, who keeps one of the most interesting personal blogs I’ve ever read. I’ve seen most of the country; she’s seen most of everywhere else, and photographed most of it.

A number of months ago, G4’s Layla Keyleigh reported a new website called Photsynth, which was in beta at the time; users could upload their photography, and the site assemble them to create virtual replicas. Once these photos are “Synthed” you can go on virtual tours of anyplace in the world. There’s even a video guide to walk you through the process.

It’s a lot of tedious work, but in the end, it’s worth it. My first synth didn’t end up so well (11% of the capital building) and I wound up deleting it.

The second and third synths turned out much better than my first two attempts, so I thought I’d share. I’d also like to extend a humble thank-you to Jason Kim, who was about to report his camera stolen had I held onto it one more day.

The first one is a replica of the Liberty Bell, just outside of the Capital Building in Jefferson City, MO.

The Liberty Bell Synth

I may not always agree with law enforcement, but it doesn’t mean I don’t respect what they stand for.

The Missouri State Law Enforcement Memorial Synth

Eventually, as I continue to move around (which I plan to restrict a bit in the future) I’ll try to upload more. Enjoy!